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March 08, 2018 Thursday 04:31:51 PM IST
Say Yes to Them and See the Change!

Children's psyche is a crucial thing, which need delicate handling. They crave for (often cry out for) things which are not good for them. But remember, the more you say "no", the more negative impact it would be creating in your child's psyche, says psychologists. Forbidden fruits are always more attractive!

Instead of saying no, the experts are requesting the parents to say "yes". This may make the parents worried that they may make their children spoiled. But remember, this "yes" will come with a twist.

A "No" can be restructured to "Yes, but...". For example, if your kid is asking for chocolate, first thing  in the morning, which you usually reciprocate with "no", try saying 'Yes, but after taking two fruits for breakfast".

As per psychologists, children do not register the explanation to a "No". A "No" is a "NO" for them. But if it is a "yes", then they will agree to the latter  part of the clause.

Psychologists are asking parents, especially mothers to be "Yes Mom", who will not say "No" to any of their child's requests. As per them, giving an opportunity for the child to take part in decision making, this can be used. For example "I want to paint the walls with marker" can be addressed like "Why not, but after sometime you will feel bored na. At that time it will be difficult to remove all those. What can we do?" and ask the child to come up with a solution. Definitely they will come with a solution like "Let's stick paper on the wall and then draw on it". 

Let the children take sensible decision. Do not prompt them. Let them learn and grow.

Inputs from: various Sources