Helping your kids cope with a traumatic event
Eleanor Mackey, PhD, a child psychologist and works primarily with the Obesity Institute and Children’s Research Institute at Children's National Hospital, USA writes why it is important for parents to understand how to help kids cope with a traumatic event, whether they are directly affected by violence and terror, or indirectly affected through media exposure or through friends and family who experience violent events.
Children who are particularly vulnerable to difficulties following exposure to violence are those who were stressed or anxious prior to the event, or who have already experienced trauma. However, any child may have a stress reaction that impacts their routine or lasts longer than a few days. Parents, teachers, coaches, and guardians are the most important line of defense against childhood anxiety and stress.
Following a traumatic event, pay close attention to signs such as these:
Any changes in mood or behavior
Increased need for reassurance or comfort
Depression or sadness
Immature behavior such as tantrums or acting out
Insomnia and difficulty sleeping or staying asleep
Shortened attention span and difficulty concentrating
Refusal to attend school, large events, or visit a place where the violent event occurred
Occasionally, children may appear to be fine for a period of time, but exhibit changes in behavior a number of months after the event. Also, if a child’s anxiety and stress symptoms persist beyond several weeks; this may be a sign that they need additional help from a mental health professional.
The most important thing that parents, guardians, coaches, and teachers can do for children is to provide a safe space for them to express their feelings. This will be different for very young children who might express their feelings by becoming fussy or angry, clinging to you or regressing through play. Adolescents may also demonstrate some of those behaviors, but may also withdraw or want to talk with family or peers about their experiences.
Try not to force your child to talk about something they do not wish to discuss. When they are ready to talk, acknowledge their feelings with empathy, and be careful not to discount their feelings with negative statements. Be truthful and honest with your children about the realities of violence, but also reassure and remind them that they are safe and protected. For example, don’t tell them an event will never happen again but reassure them that you will do everything you can to help keep them safe.
After a traumatic event, monitor your child’s mood and behavior. A number of resources can be found online including guides and activities parents can do with children following exposure to violence, terror or natural disasters. If you are still concerned, seek help from a mental health professional and talk to your child’s pediatrician.
(Content Courtesy: https://riseandshine.childrensnational.org/helping-your-kids-cope-with-a-traumatic-event/)