Another School Year Begins! Be the Better Parent!
There are many phases in parenting which are crucial for a child’s life, one of them is going to school. Going to school is a huge change for a child. It is the first place where kid has to go independently without parents. School, where kids spend most of their time, later becomes second home for them. Therefore it is very important for parent to support kids in adjusting to this vital phase in their lives.
Here are some tips for the parents:
1. Talk to the kids about School:
The child might not answer first. Let him/ her settle down first and slowly start talking. You can start by sharing your own experience in school as a kid. That may help them to realise that you can understand their feelings. Listen to them daily, without fail. Remember not to repeat questions if child does not want to answer even then its fine. Sometimes poking to much can make child defiant.
2. Keep a good rapport with the Teacher:
Teachers are like guardians to children in school. So team up with them. These days schools have parent teacher interaction days you can talk about your child and explain about his behavior. Teachers can also share inputs and together you and teacher can work towards better growth and learning of child.
3. Be a good listener:
One of the crucial steps in positive parenting is to give importance to your child’s opinion or thought. Have good conversation with your child, that means just listen to them Don’t laugh or ignore considering it trivial. E.g. your daughter is crying because her doll’s arm is broken. You might find it funny but show concern and console her. Her doll is most prized possession for her, like diamonds or I phones are for you.
Respect your child feelings and listen to them. Your listening will assure them that you care for them and support them. This will not only strengthen your relation with child but also give your child new confidence.
4.Avoid being too strict:
Studies prove that children who are slapped or hit are more prone to hit others and have tendency to be aggressive. Avoid using harsh words like stupid, nonsense. Instead of confronting child with questions like ‘Why did you do this?’ you can ask ‘What happened? Kids are very sensitive so avoid using harsh language. Aggression is no solution to any problem, talk to your child, there are other ways to discipline like ‘time out’.
5.Healthy eating habits:
Best parenting tip would be to encourage your child to eat healthy right from young age. If child stays healthy then he/she would be able to concentrate better and perform well too. Food habits that develop in young age stay for lifetime. So please ensure child follows healthy eating habits. Instead of chips and cookies for snack break you can give fruits or bowl of nuts. Dairy products are a must for this growth and development phase of childhood.
6. Let them be their own:
Make your kids self- reliant. It is very important for their all-round development in school. If your child is small, let him/her take responsibility of simple tasks, like packing toys after playing, arranging book shelf, and helping in setting up dinner table. Depending on age of your child you can delegate tasks. Support them but don’t work for them.
(Indebted to various sources)